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Why divorce?
Are there good reasons to get a divorce?
What will be the consequences?
Should you work to save the marriage?

Primary Reasons For Divorce:

  • Abuse (physical or emotional).
  • Continual arguing ("irreconcilable differences)..
  • Mental illness.
  • Abandonment.
  • Financial issues.
  • Addiction.
  • Sex-related.
  • Adultery.
  • Irreconcilable differences.


      Roughly 50% of all marriages in America result in divorce.


  • Child custody
  • Division of property.
  • Financial situation after divorce.
  • Spousal support, child support


  • Higher income, less likely to divorce.
  • Longer married, less likely to divorce.
  • Parents divorced, more likely to divorce.
  • Age when married: married younger more likely to divorce.
  • Ability to communicate & resolve conflict. The number one predictor of divorce is the habitual avoidance of conflict. (
  • Age: more likely in middle age.

Chart showing divorce rate based on age (source):

Preparing for a divorce (tips)
Some ideas that you may wish to pursue to prepare for a divorce (stash some money, clean up your social media accounts, etc.)
husbands divorce Husbands/Fathers:
Be Prepared
To Be Screwed

Wives receive preferential treatment, and even lies made by wives may be believed, especially if they are lies about abuse. It's not uncommon for a non-abused spouse to claim abuse.

Courts have long favored wives for custody. So if you're a father hoping for custody, you face a steep uphill climb.

You may be able to overcome the preference generally give to wives, but it may cost you a bundle for an aggressive lawyer, private investigators, forensic specialists, and obtaining sworn statements and depositions of witnesses. The cost could be tens of thousands of dollars.

Why Divorce - Women Wives/Mothers:
Be Prepared
To Be Screwed
If you have a good-paying job, you may come out a divorce able to support yourself and your childen. But if you're a stay-at-home mom (SAHM) or have a low-wage job, you may find life for you (and your children) drastically changed after divorce. The court may award you alimony and child support but the total amount may be far less than you experienced during marriage, so expect a decline in your standard of living. If you're a SAHM, you'll probably have to get a job and arrange for someone else to watch the kids while you're away.

You're probably going to require a lawyer. Expect to pay anywhere from $5,000 (uncontested) to as much as $50,000 or more (contested).

In many areas, you may qualify for free legal aid, depending on your income. If there's a law school in your area, some law schools offer assistance from legal students. My observation is that many legal aid groups are devoted to primarily assisting women.

A lawyer can be a luck of the draw. Try to find out from friends, relatives, co-workers which divorce lawyers appear to be best. But sometimes even a recommended divorce lawyer can turn out to be a disappointment.

The lawyer will probably require a retainer, maybe in the range of $5,000 to $10,000, to represent you. Many lawyers will offer a free initial consultation.

Why Divorce - Infidelity Infidelity

One reason for divorce: "Cheating". It's estimated that anywhere from 30% to 60% of married men will engage in an extramarital affair. The percentage of wives who will do so is smaller but on the increase.

Some are able to overlook, or forgive, cheating. Marital counseling may help, but much depends on the ability and experience of the counselor. Some cannot forgive cheating and believe a spouse's infidelity must result in a divorce.

Cheating occurs in men because they're wired for "conquest", for "variety". Some dismiss this view. Men and women may also find themselves bored, sexually. Women may be attracted to an affair because it makes them feel wanted, desirable. For men, it's often about sex and feeling virile.

One irrefutable fact is that the majority of prostitutes' clients are married men. Then, too, there are numerous websites devoted to extramarital affairs, and there are thousands, if not tens of thousands of members.

Here are some signs he/she is having an affair.

Whether or not a marriage can survive after infidelity depends largely on the individuals involved. Only you can answer that. But if you discover your spouse has engaged in an extamarital relationship, don't be rash and act too quickly. Before shouting, "That's it! I want a divorce!", take some time to cool down, and maybe see a counselor--perhaps first by yourself then with your spouse. Consider the consequences for you and for your children, if you have children.

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